There are now respected psychology books which teach
1. Women's desire is to give
2. Men's desire is to get
There are preachers saying things that elevate women's pride and denigrate the
man, describing him as more of a klutz than the woman. Things like:
1. Women are more sensitive to the Holy Spirit
2. Men are less sensitive and less responsive to the Holy Spirit
Top name radio psychology preachers have said on national programs
"I can find no scripture to support that the man is the head of the household."
And such statements are used to further rob the man of his awareness of what Scripture says.
To be happy we must accept the truth. The truth says let those who contradict God be recognzied for what they are, liars. If you want to fight for your happiness in life, then you want to fight on the side of God, because His way wins! Learn His way. Fight on His side. Then you will have good success and eternal rewards.
The women's lib movement has changed its title to 'womens equality'.
What significance lies in these two names of the same movement?
The original womens liberation movement was exactly what it was called.
It was a movement to liberate women from being flesh of the man's flesh and
bone of the man's bones. It was to liberate the woman from being a suitable and
appropriate help meet for the man.
The scripture uses a word with the general meaning of help or helpful twice in
a row where it is translated in the King James Version to say 'help meet'.
I like to say it as 'helpful helper'. The helpful helper would be suitable or
fitted.
God didn't create the man and the woman in two different places at the same time. He created the man first. Then He saw that the man needed a help suited to him. So he took a rib from the man, created a woman, and brought her to the man! The woman belonged to the man. Not as property but as flesh of his flesh and bone of his bones.
Adam and Eve were one flesh, reunited. Eve came out of man and was restored to him. The woman who allows herself to be restored to her husband will find her fulfillment. To be a help meet for her man is the plan of God for a married woman. Some women are indoctrinated against this idea by the liberation movement.
Now we have womens equality movement. They claim they want equal rights. I agree with equal rights and full protection from sinful actions.
Each man should protect his woman. Protect her as himself. Protect her as his best stronghold on this earth. Protect her as his own right arm. Protect her as his best and highest friend, as his most prized alter ego. God is jealous over His bride. Man shoulb be jealous over his wife! Defend her and protect her so she never needs to look beyond him for her rights! A man is to love his wife as his own body.
The answer for women having problems in an office environment with some man is to go to another man in that same office. Then have her male friend confront her male antagonist! Such tactics avoid the unpleasant and apparently unresolvable conflict of women directly accusing men. The personal dynamics of interreaction between men is greatly different from women to men and men to men. Let the women use a man to fight a man. Then their problems of harrasement in the office can be better eliminated.
Women working in offices should make friends just as the men must do. Amiable working relationships are a help in the workplace. Then if some male behaves in an undesirable manner, let the woman go to one of her male acquaintances with whom she has a friendly working relationship, and ask him what to do. If after counsel and possible a modification of her behavior, if the offending male is not stopped, let the man friend go to the offender and clearly tell him to cease and desist. This is the honorable thing to do. It maintains the natural flow of power. It avoids the problem of correction coming from an inferior power, the weaker vessel.
Lest any women doubt this then go ahead and carry a verbal argument to its extreme conclusion of fighting, and see who has the power. A bully reacts best to a bigger kid on the block telling him to quit picking on the little kids. But let one of the little kids try to tell the bully off, and the little kid will only get hurt. That's the way it is. No amount of wishful thinking can change the natural order, the hen-pecking order. Backlash occurs when the pecking tries to go upstream. Resentful, hurtful reactions spontaneously break out when the perceived private tries to tell the sergeant he's messing up. And then the private wonders why he's doing so much KP.
Women need to realize that even in the army this hierarchy exists between men and rank. Whenever a sexual issue is involved, sexual rank is involved when it comes to correction and rebuke.
Let the man stop the man. Let the woman find a man on her side and then let her tell him instead of trying to tell the offending man.
This whole idea of having the woman tell a man so the man can advise her in dealing with a male adversary and intervene for her if necessary, is based on the idea of a husband protecting his wife. The man protecting his mate is the root of the old fashioned idea we used to know when parents taught their children to protect girls. When knights of old defended the ladies. But women's lib denied this establish and natural order.
Women's lib said they wanted to defend themselves. So now most families have had no opportunity to experience protecting the ladies, for the ladies wouldn't let them. So men have forgotten how, or else maybe they never learned if they were raised up late enough in the women's lib movement.
Back to the subject of the women's equality movement. Many of them don't really want equality. Equality is a cover-up to disguise the true goal as they perceive it. Equality is a word used for its acceptability. It sounds right. But what it disguises is how they intend to gain their 'equality'.
By tearing down, removing, destroying the man's superiority in authority and power. If this were not so, why would they want equality with an inferior power or authority? I know the words sound harsh, blunt, and overstated; but what else is there to say. The husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. Do you think that means we're on a 50/50 basis with Christ in decision making?
God put Adam in the garden to dress it. Adam was responsible. Eve was brought to Adam to help him. Eve would not be responsible for any mistakes Adam made, but Adam would be responsible for results in the garden. Eve was under the authority of Adam. If Eve made a mistake it was Adam's responsibility to correct it. If Eve ruined a tree, Adam would be the one who was ultimately responsible.
The commandment of God to men is to be the head. The commandment of God to women is to be the helper, the facilitator. Therefore the flesh of man wants to follow, to take the easy way instead of leading. The flesh of woman wants to be the head, to take the easy way for her is to not help but lead; that is to the flesh the opposite of God's will is the easy and natural way. But to the born again Spirit, the will of God is the only way.
Before any one discards this letter as foolish, I suggest you take it to a solid experienced wise preacher in your church. One who has personally led souls to Jesus Christ. One who cares about whether a soul winds up in heaven or in hell. One who prays for people and believe God intervenes.
Concerning the attitudes of those women currently involved in women's equality movements it seems to me that few of them are fully aware of the issues I have mentioned. They are innocent of intentional attempts to strip man of his authority. They are mostly focused on being treated right. But they too have lost sight of the fact that much of their right treatment must come from man in a man's world where man has the highest authority. "The man is the head of the woman (in a marriage) ..." So long as people seek to create a two headed marriage, then how can they find happiness?
You ask how do I say man has the highest authority? Because God gave Adam the responsibility for the garden. And Eve was to help Adam. When the medals were handed out, Eve would have gotten a good medal for discharging her responsibility to help Adam, and Adam would have gotten his good medal for having a good garden, and they would have together gotten a good medal for being a good team. Like a captain and first mate of a ship.
If Eve did the things Adam said, and his directions resulted in a poor crop who
do you think would have been told? Adam would have been told that he was
messing up. Would God have come to Eve and said, "What you're doing isn't good
enough."?
No, He would have confronted Adam. Else God would break His own chain
of authority. The general doesn't correct the captain when the captain fulfills
a legal order, but the general corrects the colonel who gave the legal order
which was not the best order. The captain is responsible to disobey an illegal
order, and to fulfill all legal orders.
Women, meet your destiny. Be a help meet, a helpful helper, to your husband.
Allow yourself to be flesh of his flesh and bone of his bones. To help him, to
comfort him, to support his identity in Christ as he faces the world. He is to
take the brunt of the world's forces as he is responsible to cultivate the
garden.
You are to support him in legal actions he chooses. By legal I mean
anything not contrary to scripture. It's legal with God for Eve to refuse to
obey her husband if he tells her to hire herself out as a prostitute.
It's illegal with God for Eve to refuse to plant the carrots Adam requested just
because she thinks that spinach would be better. I said 'refuse'. This means to
deny obedience. It does not mean she can't ask once or twice if he would agree
with her way. Maybe even three times on occassion when she really thinks some
alternative course would be better than the one Adam currently advocates. But
discussion and requests is a far step from obstinate refusal.
Obstinate refusal would be defined by a woman who hears to plant carrots, then asks and explains
why she thinks spinach would be better and asks if that would be OK, then when
reassured that the man wanted carrots, just said, "No, I'm not going to do it.
You're wrong, and I'm right. If you won't let me do it my way, then I'm not
going to do anything at all.
You can just go do it yourself if that's what you
want. In fact you can just go leave me alone totally if you're not going to
give in to me on this matter. Just go away. I don't want you any more because
you don't want what I want. "
Well, you see young lady, it is not Adam's job to want what you want. It is Adam's job to want what God wants for him, (and that includes you! Adam is supposed to want you.) and it is your job to help Adam, as responsively as any muscle in his body would respond to his will so long as it were legal. (If Adam wanted his knee to bend backwards, that couldn't be done. He shouldn't want it, and if he did want it his body wouldn't respond. So with Adam and Eve. It is OK for her not to respond when something illegal is requested.) But be warned against using claims of illegality as excuse for not responding.
Eve was the one who was deceived in the garden. Adam sinned with his eyes open. The woman is the weaker vessel, for she has not the higher authority in the relationship. Such is the way God set things in the beginning. Those who content themselves in His pattern will find fulfillment. Whosoever tries to rearrange the arrangement of God will find themselves contending with God.
God told us to serve Him and not mammon. He told the women to care for the children and meet their needs. Most problems in America today can be related to failure to obey one or both of these instructions from God.
Americans started ignoring God's instructions big time by the late 1950's, it was obvious by then that God's word was being belittled, ignored, or added to or taken from, ie changed so people could be comfortable in their sin. After America passed through the phase of unashamedly serving Mammon instead of God, the country fell into such a poor economic status that a man could no longer make a decent living for his family affording the wife to stay home with the children.
America has brought itself to this place by ignoring the clear plan of Godd. By seeking after wealth and fame more than God, the people of this nation now can not earn enough money to even run their own household without the wife having to leave home and go to a full time employment outside of the home.
Which is wealthier? Raising up your own children or leaving them to a stranger to raise up whatever way? Where are the riches? The fruit of American's sin has been destructive.
These problems are caused not by just the amount of money a man earns for his family, but also by a general attitude about money. It's not just how much, because some families have more than some could count, and still the wife doesn't take care of her own children but gives the job to someone else.
It's not just how much money the man earns that drives the wife to employment
outside the home, it's also the family greed for more money. It's also the
discontent with whatever they have. Discontent and greed can be a double
trouble sin.
Consider the Jones family where Mr. Jones brings home $12,000 a year.
His wife if offered a job teaching for $20,000 a year. Who can argue against
that? I don't argue against that. But on the other hand, consider the leading
family of a community where Mr. Smith brings home $60,000 a year.
Then his wife is offered a job teaching at $20,000 a year and leaves her children to
take that job! Why? She said, "So we can send the kids to a better college
and so we can buy them a nicer car, and spend more money on them." What do you
think?
I'm not writing any of this to bring judgment on someone, but rather
to help people judge their own selves so they need not be judged of God.
Can we learn to be content with what we have and still raise our own children? Can a wife in America learn to accept her role as the first-mate on a ship, and let the husband be the captain?
The people are equal as people, but they serve in different roles with one subservient to the other. Trust God and do things His way. You can have faith that He is able and willing to make things work out for you when you do what He says. He is powerful. He is able to bless you as you put your faith in Him.
Written by Larry Rice, 4908 George, Wichita Falls, Tx 76302 Return to College Student Tracts Menu